Letters to the Editor
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Questions & Answers for the LW
Q: Needy, whiny, goes to extremes, OK -- but is that reason enough to shun me?
A: Yes, absolutely.
Q: Why?
A: Because you're acting like an asshole.
You have every right to be an asshole if you so choose. But please know that your friends also have every right to choose NOT to involve a whiny, needy drama queen/king in their lives.
Q: So how do I rectify the situation/get my friends back?
A: Quit acting like an asshole.
Most drama queens/kings, in my experience, are self-absorbed, bored attention whores who don't truly care about anyone else but themselves. If they did care, they would realize that there is no reason to needily seek and create melodrama, when run-of-the-mill life and positive relationships are infinitely more fulfilling.
So how do you quit? Turn your gaze from inward to the outside world and the people in it. Stop asking what your friends can do for you and contribute to your life - and see what you can contribute to theirs.
Look - everyone has their dark days. And believe it or not, true friends will be supportive of you through such times...if you show that you genuinely care about them as well, and if they know you would return the support if/when they themselves were facing adversity.
But most people are perceptive enough to know that drama queens would actually get off on a friend's adversity, instead of being supportive/sympathetic. And - once more - a self-absorbed whiner can never truly care about someone else...and thus will always make a terrible friend.
So quit being an asshole, LW. Think of others, do good things for others, put your problems in perspective...and you will reap the rewards of companionship.