Letters to the Editor
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Good Advice - Pity Yourself
Cary did it again. What good advice.
There is a huge group of people of the "buck up", "get over yourself", "stop whining" school of thought. If you tell them your problems they will tell you about someone who has it worse so you have no right to pity yourself.
Well, LW, don't listen to those people even in your head.
Go to your room, and think about the sadness of your childhood and cry. Cry about the mom you really wanted and never had.
I had wonderful, hardworking parents but there were a number of sad, scarring incidences in my childhood when I was in fourth grade. It was the start of periods of extreme self-loathing.
At the great age of 40 I allowed my self to cry about those experiences. I really pitied myself. It really helped. But as everyone says it is a process. So whenever I felt bad about myself I start looking at myself trying to get at the voices that are making me hate myself -trying to see in my mind where they are coming from. It always led back to the young child I was in fourth grade trying to deal with a situation all by myself.
My periods of active self loathing are gone now. There are periods now when I am dissatisfied with myself but who isn't.