Letters to the Editor
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this stuff lola wrote is VERY important. I'm repeating her most important comments:
Using legal excuses to back you up might make her respect your position more. She may not take immediate retributive steps against you, but her behavior shows that you can't bank on her integrity. She shows a sense of entitlement and lacks respect for the law, your father's wishes and you. Get someone out there IMMEDIATELY to change the locks, clear her out of the house and take the car keys. Giving her warning would allow her to prepare by stealing things, changing locks or otherwise undermining you. You've not backed up your words with actions, so your actions must now be decisive or she may try to exploit your weaknesses. She may be a generally good person who would never dream of stealing from you, but she may not realize that taking even small things from your father's home right now is theft, and that her lack of willingness to stop living in the house or driving your car is going against not only your wishes but the law. Someone needs to make this very real to her, preferably in person.
Dealing with her face-to-face would be intimidating and you could be tempted to cave to her requests, which seem to be on their way to becoming demands. Having a lawyer or an intimidating legal entity like an off-duty police officer (or even a hired security person) with you, or having them do your work on your behalf while you're safely off site, could carry the weight of law and prove that the situation is serious and that it isn't personal. She needs to be told bluntly that it's time to leave immediately and that you (or your lawyer or the police officer) must collect the keys to the car and house. Have the locks changed immediately, and install a security system if there isn't already one. If she calls and complains to you, you can say that the matter is out of your hands, certain actions are required as part of the terms of the will, etc