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A consequence of the fashionability of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is that it is all too often offhandedly recommended for situations that are beyond its scope. CBT is usually indicated for conditions such as OCD and panic disorder. It is about focusing on your cognitive and behavioral products (not causes) and attempting to correct them with pre-scripted exercises over short time spans. It is not particularly concerned with relationships or personal insight. It sounds to me like LW might want to venture to learn more about himself and how he relates to other people. That would suggest a therapist with a psychodynamic/analytic leaning more than a CB therapist.