Letters to the Editor
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another perspective
Ever here the line from singer songwriter Ani DiFranco: "Everyone harbos a hatred/For the prettiest girl in the room." It's true. And it sounds like Cary has his share of envy.
If you happen to be beautiful and introverted or the least little bit shy, forget it, everyone's going to assume you're a stuck up you-kow-what. Your ability to interact in casual social settings is judged much more harshly, particularly from people who have never recovered from the slings and arrows of high school.
Oh, and I know I'm not going to convert anyone to the "it can be tough to be pretty" mindset, but there are drawbacks. Being too attractive can be seen as hazard in some professions - people assume you got there by sleeping with someone, not on any actual merit. So many people can't see beyond the pretty face to the individual inside, and yes, I know that's cliched, but there's truth to it.
This is sexist, but it seems like guys really enjoy getting attention from all kinds and ages of women, whereas women would rather not. Men come back from lunch and talk about how the server was totally flirting with them, even though she was probably just being friendly. But not all women find getting hit on a positive thing.