Letters to the Editor
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Her looks won't improve. Old wisdom says to focus on improving what you can.
I like the a answer you gave the LW - cliches and all. It is unfortunate that any of us have to age. It is unfortunate that any of us have to lose the easy esteem you mention. Certainly this could be framed as an abandonment issue as the daily love has abandoned her. Certainly she must grow to accept her new lifestyle; it has always been thus. Your answer is like a disenchanted lover, upon dumping you, saying "No, no it's not you; it's me. We can still be friends." But for the dumpee the loss of love cuts deep and smarmy words and cliches aren't good enough.
It's been said that beauty is wasted on the young and I couldn't agree more. So the letter writer is correct in saying that men will tell her she's getting what is due her and that generally men don't find her attractive, ever. I know I wouldn't. Despite this basic truth the LW needs to overcome the anger that will come to her because of this. Taking revenge for natural behaviour will only spiral into even more bitterness and anger - and that is simply a waste of time and energy. Instead the LW should take this lemon and make lemonade by focusing the negative energy to positive pursuits. Improve upon what strengths she has and age gracefully doing so.