Letters to the Editor
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Adapt to the change
If you're working now, that means you're not available for her morning coffee ritual. You say she doesn't have time for you when you are available -- maybe the times you're available are the times she's doing other rituals (making dinner? helping kids with homework?)and it just hasn't been convenient for her to hang out.
But it's worth another try if she's important to you (or you're having some abandonment buttons pushed). Call her and tell her you'd love to have her and the other neighbor over. Give them options: Maybe brunch on a Saturday or Sunday morning, or dinner some weekday evening.
But if it's true that all she really wants out of neighbor relations is a warm body that happens to be home in the morning, you have been replaced.
Either way, it's definitely time to find some nice friendly person at work to start new coffee rituals with. You have too much invested in this one woman and you need some more pals.
Adjustment to change can be really hard for some of us. I don't know how people who constantly move or change jobs do it, except that I guess they're more "people" than "person" people.