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He and I had an emotional affair, but it was never adultery, and it's over. What do I owe her?
  • The way I see it

    You had a friendship with your boss. You got along, you worked together, you had a few drinks. No harm done.

    At some point, the friendship crossed the line from platonic to a serious relationship that was interfering with your relationship with your partner and his with his wife, even if you didn't do anything about it.

    Then, you got out. Maybe, you should have got out earlier, but hey, we're all human and we all make mistakes. The thing is, you did the decent thing and got out and you didn't sleep with a married man.

    You're a great person. If you feel obliged to apologize, apologize to ex-boss. Tell him you're sorry you didn't dump his pathetic ass long before you did.