Letters to the Editor
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wow, what's with all the hating on this woman going to England?
She had a bad childhood and only recently figured out what a stable relationship looked like--geez, now that she has every duck in a row socially, how dare she take any risk in order to pursue her own dream! She ought to devote the rest of her life to managing all those relationships, just like she did as a kid and a young adult, except that now it's OK because the relationships are good ones!
And, my God, starting a Ph.D. at 32--she ought to be home tending to her bad hip or something! (Me smells other academics who are trying to narrow the tenure competition by discouraging anyone and everyone else from completing their Ph.Ds.)
Maybe she and her S.O. feel the relationship is strong enough to withstand the temporary physical separation. Maybe they're right, maybe they're wrong, but we don't have enough information to judge.
She was over there for more than a year before the depression/drinking started, and she isn't complaining about academia or England itself. She was asking if she had a drinking problem. The answer is yes, given the info she gave about her drinking.