Letters to the Editor
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the boss is totally in the wrong
I'm not sure what's the best course of action to take, other than flat-out telling her, "I am straight, not that it is any of your damn business. If you keep trying to make it your business, I will complain to YOUR boss about your inappropriate behavior."
As to your dress, I'm not saying you should "girly" yourself up so that people automatically know you're straight. (I'm pretty girly-looking myself and I've been mistaken for a lesbian because I was seen having dinner with my shaved-head, tattooed lesbian platonic friend. I knew this was a risk, but Sarah's friendship matters more than what people who don't even know me think.) But, like it or not, society HAS set up certain unspoken dress and grooming codes that speak about people's sexual preferences and availiability. It may not be ethically right, but it is reality. I can't put on a leather miniskirt, FMPs, and three-inch false eyelashes and go traipsing around my neighborhood without being mistaken for a hooker. Maybe it isn't fair, but you can't dress androgynously, not shave your legs, wear no makeup, rarely date, and be a friend of the LBGTQ community without making people think you're a lesbian.