Letters to the Editor
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Score! Brightstar Screams!
Right on Target! See, you DO get my point. You know exactly what it is I said. LOUD AND CLEAR. Go ahead and scream, Brightstar! It makes me proud!! Insult me, please! Because I know I hit a perfect nerve! And you hate it because it's the truth, and you KNOW it. And you can't stand it! And the more you scream with your ludicrous rant the more it so proves my point. And the truth, little Brightstar, gets your briefs in such a twist. Oh, and I'm sure you'll tell us ALL ABOUT THOSE, too! In detail. Scream, little Brightstar!
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@ KStraw
>>which, frankly, is kind of weaselly.
You mean weaselly Ha Ha or weaselly true? I mean true is true KStraw. What are you gonna do? When people (not xanadu) bring up the male and female thing in domestic violence, it is demonstrably true that men are stronger. Or are you one of those weaker guys since you are now stoneless? Not one person here said domestic violence wasn't serious. Not one person here said the LW's wife should hit him. Not one person here said he should ignore it. You are just ticked 'cause your strawman argument won't fly.
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I have been wondering about something.
What is a joke condom? Is it chartruese or does it have a cartoon character or does it glow in the dark or does it have a joke printed on it like a fortune cookie?
LW, could you write in and let us know the nature of this condom?
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HeIl-arious!
How hard the trolls are trying to wedge in here! Brightstar is even so desperate that he is now claiming to have a significant other to be passive aggressive against since now he can't actually hit his imaginary female punching bad and claim that it is okay 'cause she hit him first.
What the trolls really long for: Some woman to hit.
BTW, damnthatxanadu, brightstar wears panties. He is experimenting with his feminine side. One does have to wonder if he dresses up in women's clothes and then beats himself up.
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Anonymous 12:34
Oh that's right! And didn't he say he twirls around in those skirts? And the panties...you got to wonder exactly where he gets those? Does he go to Victoria Secret and insist on trying them on or is he one of those guys who steal them at the laundromat? If he does, I wonder is he one of those who picks them out before in some woman's dirty laundry when she's not looking or after from the dryer all fluffy fresh? Now that's something to contemplate...
Excuse me, I need to go laugh my ass off.
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Sad but true...
Unfortuneately, in a time when 1 out of every 2 marriages fail, women, young and old, fear the worst. And when something is added to that fear like a talk show about cheating spouces or a condom in a husband's pocket or personal items, the worst fear is confirmed.
I don't think LW is psychotic or her ptsd has anything to do with what's going on with her. I'd be willing to guess that a lot of women would react the same way if they had found a condom in their husband's things.
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Laugh it up
I OWN my sexuality. PROUDLY.
My point was made, that women want to be absolved of all responsibility in marriage.
As for settling scores, this is for the future where I will not give an inch in my relationships. I will basically treat them like most women seem to do. Keep score and never ever forgive.
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A different underwear story
I was once married to a guy who was a chronic cheater. We had a little talk. He had to shape up or I would leave. One day, several months after he had promised me that he would be a good boy, I moved a bed in the guest bedroom to vacuum behind it. I found a pair of striped panties that appeared to be drenched in dried semen. They weren't mine. I confronted him. First he claimed that they had to be mine. I pointed out that they were about three sizes too small for me. He said that I must have gained weight. By god, he went on and on with protestations of innocence. He was good! He almost had me believing him. Maybe during some delusional state I had purchased a pair of ugly striped cotton bikini panties that were way to small for me. I was almost buying it when he changed his story. He said okay, he had bought them for me because he liked them so much that he wanted to see me wearing them, but before he could give them to me, he got excited and masturbated on these really arousing panties. I didn't buy it. He was more of a black silk kinda guy.
The technique is called gaslighting. When confronted lie lie lie and make your victim believe she is going crazy. He tried this stuff on me in other ways too. The $500 that disappeared from the checking account? I must have withdrawn it. He didn't come home all night? Didn't I remember that he had told me he had a camping trip with his buds?
Watch the movie sometimes. "Gaslight" with Ingrid Bergman and Chales Boyer.
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regarding KStone
You mean weaselly Ha Ha or weaselly true? I mean true is true KStraw. What are you gonna do? When people (not xanadu) bring up the male and female thing in domestic violence, it is demonstrably true that men are stronger. Or are you one of those weaker guys since you are now stoneless? Not one person here said domestic violence wasn't serious. Not one person here said the LW's wife should hit him. Not one person here said he should ignore it. You are just ticked 'cause your strawman argument won't fly.
It's my understanding that KStone is "stoneless" because she is a woman. (If I'm mistaken, I apologize.) This being true, I assume she's not holding up woman-on-man violence as equal to man-on-woman violence because she is a man trying to justify beating a woman, but because she's trying to be an honorable person.
Regarding frying pans, knives, etc.
A friend I grew up with ended up in a bad marriage. Her husband, while coked-out, tried to hit her one too many times. She cold-cocked him with a frying pan. He did not actually die but he did stay down long enough for the police to arrive.
I personally know two men who were stabbed by their wives. One spent months in the hospital. I also know a man who had to have skin grafts on his shoulder after having the water for preparing coffee thrown on him by his wife.
It's true that most men in abusive relationships are not, most of the time, literally afraid for their lives. But statistics show that maybe they should be. Wives kill husbands quite often.