Letters to the Editor
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AKA Smith
Wow, sorry to hear about your childhood. But it sounds like you made your own life your own in spite of it and didn't succumb to the victimization of it. I know so many who have. It's a terrible "disease" in this world.
So, the trolls are all over at Broadsheet? Wow, they're amazing aren't they the way the crawl out of the woodwork. I wondered why I got so little resistance to my post. Obviously, it wasn't my brilliant "faulty generalized" logic that just wiped them out. Damn. I thought I'd have a bunch of strange irrational rationalizations to refute or ignore. You know though, they all know that everyone knows that what I said is true, so it's difficult for them to really say it isn't because it's so obvious. They would show themselves up for the shrill slavering bullies they are. But...that's never stopped them before.
And you know this is a sticky subject because even "arm-chair" feminists get caught in reversal equality trick that the trolls twist out. But counselors and folks who worked in rape centers, women's shelters, and anything on the "front lines" of working with DV know this first hand the damage done, the fear and the abuse, the lives gone and don't take kindly to fools of either sex. Very few physically abusive women, as bad as they can be, can compete with the likes of a physically abusive man.
Take care, AKA Smith. Keep on, keeping on.
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Yu bitch is ill,
But she got the Power
Man with the badge
be cuffin you gay ass soon
she put you down
be real.
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Re:"Domestic Violence is ok if the victim is male?"
Yes, after all the "realist" and "front line" posing and the long-winded personal tales that, remarkably, always seem to fit whatever topic is being discussed, that's sort of what being said by some.
See, generally speaking, if a man hits a woman he can cause much more physical damage than a woman hitting man therefore intent doesn't matter much as opposed to the relative potential for physical damage. If a woman intends to hurt a man the fact that she is likely to cause him less physical damage rather than vice versa is all that matters. Only "arm chair feminists and reverse equality tick plating Broadsheet trolls" feel otherwise.
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Absurd!
KStone gathers straw to to construct a straw man argument contending a POV was expressed that no one actually expressed. Let's just rename him KStraw.
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Uh huh...
Sure anon. I wonder which poster you are... Of course they haven't come out and endorsed an "ok" answer to the question I answered in my last heading but they have taken pains to explain how it's "different" for female vs male as opposed to male vs female which it can be but, in the end, so what? It was a clever ruse though.
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Haven't bother to read the thread, have you?
Of course not. That would be too much trouble for you. Almost every letter here says that domestic violence is bad whether it comes from a man or a woman. Many advice the LW to leave. But it would be stupid to ignore the fact that he asks Cary how he can help his wife. These threads should be for advice not debates. They should be for the LW's use. It is the LW that needs help, so why not focus on that? Even dtx focus on that in his early letters and the last two letter just clarifeid. People seem to forget the LW's wife served her country and now has an illness. I don't know what it is with some to you liverals that you cannot value anyones patriotic service and desire to stay married.
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Xanascrew
I don't get your point. So if fewer women can cause as much harm as men, all women should be let off the hook for abusing their spouse?
I am glad I keep my distance from feminists these days if this is how you people think.
My question to you and others, since we men have to be passive aggressive these days around our women, being that y'all have wrapped up the power thing and can have us arrested at will, what are some sneaky techniques we can use on our significant others to punish them without them finding out? All advice welcome as I've got some score settling to commence.
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LOL, anon. You haven't bothered to really read my letter
"Almost every letter here says that domestic violence is bad whether it comes from a man or a woman."
I didn't say otherwise. What I said was that some here have used a "it's not okay either way" fig leaf and then have gone on to basically hedge and say "it's not okay either way", BUT it's not as bad if a woman does it because the physical differences between women and men mean women can't hurt men as much physically which, frankly, is kind of weaselly.
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It's Not About YOU!
Hey, Bucko, get ready for a news flash: You are not a victim! Whoa! Heavy stuff here. I know, I know. How's a guy supposed to hold up to all those accusations? Next you'll be telling her that if you're being accused you might as well do it.
I just have one question: How does someone who was suffering from PTSD from the first Gulf War end up being deployed to another? Doesn't sound right to me.
Your first responsibility is to get your wife the help she needs. Obviously our first-rate military hasn't done such a good job of taking care of anyone who doesn't return in a body bag. And I know there are all kinds of places you can turn to find help. So why you reading Salon and asking a guy you don't know from Adam what you should do with your crazy wife? Hmmm.
I mean, you've been married for a year and you must've known about her condition, and yet you've done nothing before marriage or after marriage? Go through your stuff and clear out the "joke" condoms that you don't seem to have answers for, and get your wife acquainted with your friends. But in the meantime, get her the help she needs NOW and stop spinning your wheels with "celebrity columnists."