Letters to the Editor
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an addendum for your consideration
Interesting advice! My impulse was to suggest just the opposite. Be caring, but do not re-merge your lives.
One important thing needs to be added here, and that concerns this letter writer's wife. No mention is made of her family, her needs and desires, or the future needs of her family. Are they healthy? Can you dedicate yourself to only one side of the inlaw equation and have a happy, balance marriage? Is it right to just expect her to dedicate herself to her inlaws, without balance her needs and desires against those of her husband and her inlaws? If you ride to the rescue in Denver, when her family is in need, will you move them in too? If you don't, will there be resentment? Pretty darn likely.
As important and laudable as filial piety is, I do not believe it should trump a healthy marriage.