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Make sure to shore up your boundaries
An ungrateful son never bothers to think about whether he's ungrateful. Your compassion for your family is commendable.
I WOULD suggest, however, that you read/go to therapy to learn more about having boundaries before you go. With difficult families, the phrase "good fences make good neighbors" is very appropriate. If you are confident in your ability to make good fences, it will really lessen your family's ability to "drag you down." And, in turn, that will enable you to offer the best of yourself, not what's left over after you're exhausted from being hurt.