Letters to the Editor
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Done the right thing for who?
LW, you must keep in mind that Cary has the same answer, 100 percent of the time, to people who ask if they should move closer or further away from family. From what I can tell from reading his column, Cary moved away from his family (in Fla., I believe) and, now, that he's older, regrets it - in retrospect. He dispenses advice in this arena, based on his regrets, in each and every letter in this column where the reader inquires about geography vis a vis their family. It is a real blind spot for Cary, and he's not responding to you and your particular problem; he's responding to what he wishes *he* had done in the past. I love Cary's column and love his writing, but he's not listening to you. He actually says to you, about staying in Denver: "But I think you will have few regrets, because you will have done the right thing." My question is: done the right thing for who? If the decision to settle in Denver is "the right thing" for you, LW, you will, of course, have few regrets. If moving to another city is the "right thing" for you, and you stay in Denver, look forward to many years of depression and regret. If that's the right thing in somebody's book, then you will have done the right thing.