Letters to the Editor
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What about your wife
Did she sign up for using the best years of your life on taking care of your mom (understandable) and your married sister? (not damn likely).
This advice sounds like a recipe for divorce. Cleave to your wife, care for your child. Or lose them.
Lets see - mom of a small child, and fulltime medical residence - and you want to add the stress of taking care of your mom and sister -- when? What free hour of the day? Her next few years are going to around the clock busy, and she is going to need your time and attention. Because you are going to have so much spare time with a new job? And spending quality time with your son. Where are you going to find time for taking care of someone who is currently living on her own just fine? Yes she may get sick and need to live with you, but don't invite that stain until you have to. (Not to mention you are making an assumption that she would want to - start ignoring mom's guilt trips) The more time you spend on your marriage and child now, the stronger your marriage will be, so that when you do need to move mom in, the strain will do less damage. Now is not the time.
Oh, yeah and two young people with a young child, fresh from college in their first jobs, are going to have the money to buy a house in Denver big enough to have a separate living area for mom. What planet do you live on Cary?? Have you seen house prices in Denver? -- sorry but a new college teacher, a resident, and no job history , fresh from school will be living in an apartment for awhile. A nice apartment, but an apartment , until they can save up a downpayment, pay off school, and the cost of moving to Denver, plus child care -- oh and her medical bills from the pregency, since student insurance is a little unimpressive. Get real.