Letters to the Editor
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cheating
Well, most people get married because they want an exclusive relationship. In many cases, this is not too difficult to define. So they get married. No one makes you get married, and cohabiting or living singly or whatever is also fine, you can do whatever you want. But in general the idea if you decide to get married is that you want some sort of monogamy. You can be conscious about creating your relationship with your spouse, or you can just let society jerk you around. Maybe you don't know which is which, or haven't had the chance to find out the difference. This is not to prudishly go over the top regarding lapses, but just to say a general sense of what is going on, and how that relates to what you want from your relationship, is not a bad idea. A fundamental clarity about what you want from your life and relationship might not be a bad place to start. You can do anything you like. But figuring out how to do that requires knowing what it is, and possibly, what it also means.