Letters to the Editor
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Open relationships
Cali64: There are many open marriages that work just fine and often open marriages require more honesty and trust than closed marriages. Open marriages used to be something to be concealed and ashamed of (as almost anything re: unconventional sex in this country) and as such weren't as cultivated in the public eye. In short, they get a bad rap. As for open marriages "not usually working out" I would say that most marriages don't work out-open or not. It depends on the mindset of those entering the marriages as both open and closed marriages require a level of commitment. "There are few people in this society who would agree to such an arrangement": So is it better to then just marry someone with the implicant agreement of faithfulness and eventually break their heart rather than try a little harder to find someone who shares your values? I myself subscribe to monogamy but went through a long period in my life where I was not ready to commit to just one person. That's fine. Don't do it until you're ready or don't do it at all. The pain you will inflict on others is not worth it.