Letters to the Editor
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Dear LW
Yes, you have indeed generated A LOT of discussion from both sides of the field. I'm not sure what your purpose in writing in is. On the one hand I would like to think that you know what you are doing has the potential to destroy your relationship with your "soulmate". You admit that what you are doing is "completely unfair and hurtful to him" but seem to have no motivation to stop. Why is this? (I'm honestly asking why) Do you know? Why would you in one breath talk about how hurtful your behavior is but in the next say "Why can't friends fool around occasionally?" Didn't you just answer that question? Because it harms your relationship? To me it seems that you still seem to be stubbornly trying to justify your behavior. Friends can fool around once in a while-I know I have friends I've gotten, well, pretty close with. But never when one of us was in a committed relationship where it had the power to harm others. I think you really need to explore why you feel the need to do this. You admit that nothing seems to be missing from your relationship; you don't "want or need two relationships". Is this really, really just about sex?? If that's the case and you really cannot picture yourself ever being satisfied with just one sexual partner you need to either open up your marriage or find a husband that's willing to let you indulge. I know that may not sound fair. "But I waaaaaaaaaaaaant my husband!" you say-well then, stop sleeping around. "But I waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaant to sleep around!" you say-well then leave your husband. It's a conundrum isn't it?