Letters to the Editor
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Rutgers
I'm the one who intially stated that degrees do not equal intellect.
My degree is from a more reputable institution, I must admit. Not necessarily better, but certainly more reputable.
I've even taught Rutgers students, some of which are excellent and others not so much, as with any large school. (and if you've gone to Rutgers, you have a clue from whence my degree came.)
You've not offered an argument. You stated an unsubstantiated opinion, a highly derogatory one, and offered no evidence to validate it.
No one has insulted you. All anyone has done is offer you the same degree of comment you have. Really. You've been highly insulting to woman, extremely prejudiced on a class level, and have offered no supporting argument.
What you have done, however, is challenge all to refute you. You insist no one has offered an argument to counter yours, but all have -- opinion to match opinion, as you've offered nothing more.
Argue intelligently, and this audience will offer you the same respect, regardless of the extremity of your opinion.
Best of luck to you.
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maybe not
But so far you haven't say nothing worthwhile and nothing who disproves my original statement that being a single mom is a career option for lazy women.
but I did, and I kinda pointed out how petty it is to pick on single moms. I guess he missed my posts. Adéu, home!
I WIN BY DEFAULT!
Can I has a cheezburger?
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Oh, and about newborns
I keep thinking of just one more thing to say!
Toddlers can make a hellish racket. Little bitties generally aren't very loud; even when they haul off and shriek, they usually lack the lungpower to carry very far.
Have someone deputized to take the baby out if he gets restless. Better yet, follow the sensible instructions of several other people who have said to have a on-site babysitter during the ceremony. You don't have to suddenly allow all children at the wedding just because you're making an exception for the wife of a member of the wedding party.
It really isn't reasonable to expect a brand-new mother to leave a baby at home for an entire day to attend your wedding.
There are some sensible ways to express your concern without attacking your sister-in-law: "Do you really want him around all those people and their out-of-state germs at such a young age? Maybe we should find a way for him to stay home..."
This really is mostly about you and your jealousy. You're pretty transparent on that score. I do understand - I called my sister-in-law to ask if she wanted to be a bridesmaid at my wedding, and found that she would be too busy to come because she was getting married the week after! Every woman wants her own wedding to be a big deal, not one of many. But... it isn't. Weddings are simply not a big deal.
And it's a shame that my sister-in-law and I weren't maids at each other's weddings. It turns out, years after the fact, that I adore her and her husband.
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Live and let live!
Amen Cary. Try as I might I don't truly understand the crux of the Baffled Bride's complaint. Sure, it's understandable to get a little tense about an event that means so much and that involves so much planning and money. It's natural to want it to be perfect. However, weddings for most of us normal folks never really go perfectly. Most of us don't come from perfect families with only perfect relatives who all have perfect decorum and presence. This situation is a reflection of the real world we live in, and it is at odds with celebrity weddings and other fabrications and exceptions to the rules.
What is the worst that can happen here? A baby comes to the wedding? If the fiancé's brother is going to be married around the same time, what does it matter unless they plan on joining in on the vows? I don't really see how it impacts this particular wedding. Perhaps there is something that I'm missing.
Cary is exactly right in his recommendation of embracing a giving, warm attitude. The Baffled Bride not a bridezilla yet, but if she doesn't let go of this, soon she will be. Live and let live! Accept a little imperfection, and for goodness sake, try not to be so judgmental! Sometimes when we learn to let go a little is when we can truly enjoy.
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From "Rutgers"
I apologize for getting so off topic on this, but I want to assure everyone that I didn't mean to hurt anyone's feelings by point out that I have a college degree.
It is not meant as a put-down to those who could not or did not choose to attend college.
It was mentioned as a way to back up my assertion that it is ok to use 'learnt' on message boards (tho not at a publication using US style sheets).
WAY OFF TOPIC, but again, I didn't want non-college-grads to think I was being insulting. It was a way of saying there are certain grammatical rules, and those who are officially schooled in them have more expertise than those who are not.
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As Long As the Trolls Are Veering Off Into This Territory...
the countries that have the MOST socialist systems--the nordic countries--have some of the LOWEST rates of "unwed" mothers. Because they ALSO have some of the best availability of birth control, served minus the healthy doses of guilt that our pseudo Christian country heaps on those who have sex as teenagers.
Case in point? The nastiness of the letter writers who claim that single mothers live off the country at large (and them, in particular.)
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despite your selfishness
I'm compelled to suggest a compromise:
LEt the ceremony be open to all family and then have the fantasy "Dynasy" "Falconcrest" "Dallas" big cocktail party for grown ups reception you so want.
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It was a way of saying there are certain grammatical rules, and those who are officially schooled in them have more expertise than those who are not.
you're still wrong: "learnt is NOT considered correct in formal language.
IF you really studied english in college, you'd know that correct USAGE is researched in a stylebook, not a dictionay!
You try to apolozie by saying you aren'tt condescending and then end with: "but I DO know better than all you cuz I went to a better school."
the fact is: learnt is NOT acceptable in formal writing. I KNOW for a fact it is NOT acceptable at Rutgers! lol
you may write an essay researching the roots of Old English, but if you wrote an English paper and used "learnt" it would be marked as incorrect by your professor (or her TA)
thanx for the laugh.