Letters to the Editor
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This was covered on The Simpsons
See Emmy Award-winning episode "Lisa's Wedding," episode 19, season six.
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LW, you are the trashy one
you know nothing about CLASS
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weddings are for families. And families have babies
amen. Why are you inviting people to a wedding if you don't want people there? why not just go to Paris and have a dream barbie wedding and exclude people who can't afford to fly. Either you want to be a gracious host or you want to be princess of the world forever
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if you want the wedding to be about YOU
then don't invited anyone and it will be all about you.
If you want to invite people, then admit that it IS NOT ALL about YOU
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No and no
Carys full of bs on this one. This spoiled brat is going to wreck your wedding. Provide a babysitter, tell the brat you are very sorry but no one is bringing their children so you can't allow her it wouldn't be fair.
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Why would you ever want to be "the smaller person?"
Not to be too church-sign-ey, but I think that this may be your sign that it's time to teach your soul to grow in a new way. Accept her. It's all she's looking for from you.
Don't feel sorry for her. Don't intellectually pull her apart. Lie on your back on the bed and go through every situation for the rest of your life where she will be, and add her in. Cry. Grieve. Be angry and shout. Then, forgive her.
And then realise that you could have a child who -- despite your best efforts -- ends up like her. Learn now how to talk to this person. Realise that there will be times in your marriage when your husband does something so appalling and repugnant that you want to kick him to the curb -- and realise that this is how you practice fidelity.
It's going to be OK. Yes, you are acting selfishly, but we all do. We're human, and sometimes people push our big, red 'emergency!' buttons. It's OK. Learn how to ride it out and take it as it comes. It's one of the biggest lessons of your entire life.
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You do know, that as someone who lived with a man for at least six years (seven by the wedding?), there's probably a part of one of the families that thinks you're trashy
that is SO true
Judge lest not you be judged
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"just a kid looking to 'play house'",
excuse me, but that is exactly what you did for the last 6 years.
How hypocritical to criticize someone for doing what you did. You really are more like the "trash" than you care to admit.
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i can't imagine a wedding without kids
The point is to have family there. So kids should ALWAYS be there. It's sorta the point of weddings, family, circle of life. IF you don't want your family at your wedding...
I have little hopes for your life or marriage
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they met in GED class?
so they were both trying to better themselves.
Maybe you can learn from them and try to better yourself.
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Agreeing with Anonymous 2:00
See, in USA, being a single mom is a career option for lazy women. With alimony, child support and government subsidies, a girl with no qualms can avoid working for her entire lifetime (while their ex-couples and all the taxpayers work hard to give an easy life to this parasite). Same in most developed countries.
Then, when statistics appear saying that the number of single moms is boosting, pundits are surprised and feminists blame it on the Patriarchy.
Since most criminals are sons of single women, then we have more and more crime in US.
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being a single mom is a career option for lazy women. With alimony, child support and government subsidies, a girl with no qualms can avoid working for her entire lifetime
yeah, living in squalor. Have you EVER been to public housing? Would you really want to trade homes with someone in public housing? In my city bullets fly there most nights. You want a life like that?
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You want a life like that?
No, I don't. But they do. They prefer it to working. If they don't, they have an alternative: working!!!!
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"perfect wedding"
So, LW wants a "perfect wedding."
What year is this again? How is it that in 2007, society seems to be going more apeshit than ever over a ceremony that more than likely will be repeated at least once over the course of a normal lifetime? Certainly, this trend is a boon to wedding planners, florists, dressmakers, caterers, travel agents, ministers, jewelers and no doubt therapists and Big Pharma, but what any of it has to do with two people committing to each other in front of loved ones escapes me.
In my role as Gay Father Confessor, I always try to remind my young hetero friends as they stress about the "Big Day," that the Marriage is what's important, not the Wedding.
But enough about the latest consumer scam; let's talk about LW and where on earth she got ahold of the interesting notion that looking down her nose at other people was somehow "classy."
LW? What is classy is compassion. What is classy is graciousness. What is classy is being kind to people and making them feel welcomed and respected even if you don't respect their choices. What is classy is giving people a chance to be their best selves. What is classy is realizing that anyone who would judge you based on anything but your own behavior is someone who doesn't matter.
Our consumerist society wants us to believe that Class is about having when it's actually about being.
Instead of being such a wound-up bitch, why don't you take future sister-in-law under your wing and give her the benefit of all your superior Home Training? While you're at it, try and realize that it's your fiancee's Big Day as well and resist the temptation to put him in a difficult position regarding his Best Man. If you really want to go all out on introspection, consider the notion that on this Big Day, gestures of kindness and generosity will set a tone not only for the day, but for the marriage...
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If the baby is the issue....
Assuming having the baby at the ceremony is the LW's primary issue, and the future sister-in-law can't afford child care - why not take it upon yourself to offer a babysitter? Depending on where the reception is - either have part of a hotel room or changing room set up for a baby sitter to watch the baby. The new mom would be close enough to check in on the baby, but would be separate from the event.
Weddings have all sorts of unintended costs, just suck this up as another $100-150 that you may need to spend to have the wedding you want.