Letters to the Editor
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Beautiful person
Why do we have a wedding? It's supposed to be a gathering of friends and, especially, family, to witness a couple making their marriage vows and shower them with love and gifts for starting out their new life together, which may even provide new little people to carry on the family. The bride gets to wear a pretty dress, but the wedding isn't about her. It's about the marriage, and the continuation of two families with the creation of a new family. And families are about human beings, with all our frailties and weaknesses and strengths and shared love and petty disagreements.
I've never understood why people don't allow children at weddings unless it's to make the wedding a showcase or spectacle rather than a family gathering and celebration.
Cary is precisely right about this. And just as Cary had a hard past that he transcended, your fragile new sister-in-law appears to be facing a hard time that she will have difficulty transcending. Without love and family, she'll have an even harder time.
In the long run, as you and your family and friends reminisce about your wedding, you'll be far happier if you're remembered as a beautiful person rather than a beautiful spectacle. So try to be one.