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Cary is right on the money here.
I still remember my brother's wedding 6 years ago. He married a wonderful woman who grew up dirt poor in Northern Arizona, one of 21 children of polygamist parents.
She grew into a very tasteful and classy woman, and all the wedding details were just so. But what made it a wedding to remember was the generous, welcoming, open-hearted spirit of the bride and groom, which did indeed set the tone for everyone who came. It was by far the best and most beautiful wedding I'd ever been to - and everyone I talked to said the same - and none of that had anything do with the flowers, or the food, or the location. It had everything to do with the sense of celebration and gratitude and acceptance and love that was so palpable.
I hope mine someday will be that good.