You sound like you might do better on another dating site. Nerve? Or maybe check out the NYRB personals.

eHarmony is lame, because, among other things, it assums that you want to hook up with someone just like you. Someone in harmony.

However, it's just as likely that opposites attract. Or some random combination of the two. For example -- a dom and a sub.

I do think you are on to something, and I think that clean = missionary position is a possibility.

In the best of all possible worlds, clean = green. Minimal carbon footprint. eHarmony isn't in that world.

Used cars are frequently described as 'clean' -- which is shorthand for overall condition.

You don't want these guys. Go with your intuition and reject all guys that are into clean.

Except 'obsessed with sex'

This is almost like asking prople to rank the seven deadly sins. Not a lot of information.

It's a loooooooong process, and that choice is near the top of the list. It reveals nothing more than how men feel about choosing answers to long lists of really lame, multiple-choice questions, and I don't blame them.

In defense of the LW, I think her reaction, unfortunately, reveals the effect of all those really funny "fish" jokes (not to mention the internalization of ages of sexist hegemony). By the way, did you know that semen, an alkaloid, throws off the vaginal pH, which can cause an overgrowth of the bacteria that causes that fishy smell? See? Knowing is half the battle. :)

I joined eharmony years ago. I'm a buddhist practitioner and made that clear -- but they kept matching me up with born-again christians. At the time I just chalked it up to ignorance on their part (we're both 'spiritual'?)-- I'm fine with christianity, but born-agains believe that buddhists are doomed to hell. I wonder if they set me up with these guys on purpose somehow??

i was kicked out of eharmony. the questions are odd and who fits into a multiple choice profile? so if the choices are clean, not clean well....??? it is interesting how the writer turned this around in her head. more revealing about her i think.

You know, a word that a lot of people will find coded meanings in no matter how the user intends it to be interpreted. Didn't Joe Biden get in trouble for using these words in tandem to describe Barack Obama?

Oh lord. Listen up kiddy and I explain. No one wants to face a jungle and worse - jungle rot. Some of you fems never clip, nip or shave and frankly it is just plain rank. Ya get the top cut right ? so spend a little time trimming up the love triangle. You will feel better and so will your man.

Oh and not shaving your arm pits ? Pluuleasessss. If I wanted to f&*^ an animal I have plenty to choose from. Disgusting hairy arm pits and legs on a woman is well the concept "lice infested" comes to mind. Get off the twat ladies and clean up. The men will come a-flocking.

Now that I have your attention. Mostly this selection is made as being neutral - selected to increase the chances of a hit.

DUH !

well, I'd click on "can't stand someone who isn't clean" too, cuz I can't stand someone who isn't clean. the fact that they click on it doesn't mean anything about that person, it's more about choices on a multiple choice menu and how people think if they don't click it, it might mean they DO like people who aren't clean and who wants that impression floating about a dating site>?

If you delete all guys who choose cleanliness, then all you're leaving yourself with is dirty guys. WHY? Why on earth do you think you deserve gross dirty guys? You're setting yourself up for failure here if you create this illogical rule that you won't date guys who choose the clean option.

What is this really about? FEar? Anger? Bitterness?

the same could be said of you men. Why don't YOu shave all your body hair so we don't have to deal with anything slightly oderous?

I'm a woman and do my own yardwork. I have 24 trees. Sometimes when I get done with a marathon (3-hour) yardwork session (I don't mind; I consider it part of my exercise routine) I don't know how they get in there, but yes, when I go to take a shower at the end of the day, there are leaves and twigs in my panties.

I think Geekd1998 hit the nail on the head, you have to select items from a list and "clean" seems simple enough.

I had many a good laugh reading some of the interpretations other responders have suggested.

...I tried eharmony because they had such a large membership. I have also tried yahoo personals and match.com. I've dated several people from various ads. What I've found out is that none of those questions really makes any difference at all. Everyone I've met has had the usual assortment of virtues and vices, regardless of who they said they were or what they said they wanted in their ads. Probably a few more vices than the general population, if we had much going for us we wouldn't be driven to using the internet to find a mate. I think it's best, when using the ads, to use them to determine a person's interests, and whether a person has children, smokes, drinks, or travels. Ignore the other stuff, you will find out the truth if you meet.

It is assumed that people will not cheat. It would be ridiculous to pick "not cheat" in this case.

It is not assumed that people automaticallyknow to shower once a day.

think about it, if someone cheats, you can upbraid them, and it is probably a passing thing, but if they are not clean, they are disgusting and probably pretty stuck in their habit, since it is not as accepted to try to force someone to wash up every day. This becomes a recurring and ongoign nightmare.

Sex is number 1 for men too, if the sex is not good, because the person is not clean, what else is there, conversation? A guy can get that from ANYONE.

Thjis chick has issues because no guy wants her. And why should a guy if she can't even punch her way out of this papoer bag?