the person who suggested these men seeking "clean" women are closeted gay men have a point...

Vanity...

I can't stand someone who is overly interested in their physical appearance.

Dependence...

I can't stand someone who bases their happiness on me.

Depressed...

I can't stand someone who is constantly unhappy about their life.

Lying...

I can't stand someone who lies to anyone-especially to me.

Cheating...

I can't stand someone who takes advantage of people.

Cynicism...

I can't stand someone who generally sees the world from a cynical perspective.

Anger...

I can't stand someone who can't manage their anger, who yells, or bottles it up inside.

Self-Centered...

I can't stand someone whose main topic of conversation is himself/herself.

Rude...

I can't stand someone who is belittling, impatient or hateful to people in any situation.

Unhappy at Work...

I can't stand someone who hates their job and complains about it all the time.

Materialistic...

I can't stand someone who sees material items as a measure of success.

Denial...

I can't stand someone who is unable to accept blame or see fault in their own actions.

Workaholic...

I can't stand someone who treats everything in life as secondary to their job.

Lazy...

I can't stand someone who likes to spend excessive time sleeping, resting or being a "couch potato."

Worrier...

I can't stand someone who easily loses perspective and constantly worries.

Intolerance...

While I understand that religious conviction is a positive trait, I can't stand someone who is self-righteous and feels that their particular faith is the only one that matters.

Victim Mentality...

While everyone has times of self-pity, I can't stand someone who continually sees himself/herself as a victim.

Grudges...

I can't stand someone who has a chip on their shoulder.

Mean Spirited...

I can't stand someone who has a devious nature and is mean to others.

Childishness...

I can't stand someone who is not emotionally mature.

Fiscally Irresponsible...

I can't stand someone who is incapable of managing their money.

Petty...

I can't stand someone who focuses on imperfection.

Hypochondriac...

I can't stand someone who has a general disposition of sickness and is constantly treating the symptoms of their supposed illness.

Boorishness...

I can't stand someone who is inclined to rowdy, vulgar or disrespectful behavior when "having fun."

Excessive Overweight...

I can't stand someone who is overweight.

Gambling...

I can't stand someone who gambles.

Drugs...

I can't stand someone who uses illegal recreational drugs.

Intruding Family/Friends...

I can't stand someone whose relatives and friends are constantly calling or visiting.

Values

Punctuality...

I can't stand someone who is always late.

Flirts...

I can't stand someone who constantly flirts with the opposite sex.

Racist...

I can't stand someone who believes that any particular ethnic group to which they belong is superior to the rest of humanity.

Television Junkie...

I can't stand someone who constantly watches television.

Poor Hygiene...

I can't stand someone who is not clean.

Hypocrites...

I can't stand someone who holds a double standard for their actions and those of other people.

Gossip...

I can't stand someone who loves to talk about other people.

Judgmental...

I can't stand someone who finds fault with everyone and everything.

Pornography...

I can't stand someone who views or owns pornography in any form.

Addictions...

I can't stand someone who currently suffers from addictions.

Sloppy...

I can't stand someone who is unkempt.

Undependable...

I can't stand someone who fails to come through and is unreliable.

Cheap...

I can't stand someone who is so tightfisted as to be impractical.

Foul Mouthed...

I can't stand someone who swears or uses inappropriate language or humor.

Arrogant...

I can't stand someone who is obnoxiously cocky.

Extremely Shy...

I can't stand someone who is so shy that they cannot open up and share with me.

Pessimism...

I can't stand someone who always sees the glass as half empty.

Political Correctness...

I can't stand someone who censors their thoughts and opinions with a politically correct agenda.

Recklessness...

I can't stand someone who has a careless and irresponsible manner when with others.

Sexually Obsessed...

I can't stand someone who is sexually obsessive.

Uninterested...

I can't stand someone who does not enjoy having sex on a regular basis.

Infidelity...

I can't stand someone who engages in sex outside a committed relationship.

Christian overtones indeed. eDissonance is a better site.

You've sold me!

Why not just ask one of these men directly about their "I can't stand someone who is not clean" choice. I bet you'll get a zillion interpretations of that question.

But given that eHarmony.com is full of Christain overtones, my guess is that the original intent of the question has something more to do with STD's or how much the woman sleeps around.

The "I can't stand someone who is not clean" choice on eharmony is listed under "hygiene." I can't stand someone who is not tidy, or something like that, is another choice. I'd be curious to know if 60 percent of the women choose this, too.

You're right. Every time I see the eHarmony ad, I wonder if these are actors or real people, because if they are real people, two of the guys seem 100% in the closet, lol.

But for me it means not having a criminal record, not carrying concealed weapons and not using narcotics. I just hate it when they show up with a concealed weapon.

meant "artsy" not "arsy"

"who" not "whi"

etc.

I have had oral sex with numerous women, and I am fairly confident that this "clean" women thing has nothing to do with that, for a very simple reason. You don't just grab women off the street and go down on them without both of you have a darn good shower first, whether it be together or singly. You just don't.

And you brush your teeth and preferably use mouthwash to avoid infections in those delicate nether regions, because the human mouth is a positive cesspit of germs.

However, if I was desperate enough to be looking on e-harmony I might still check the box for clean women.

Why?

Well, first of all this would rule out any smokers. Yes, it would, because I can't stand women whose hair, clothes, and homes smell of rancid smoke.

Secondly, because I recently had an experience with a very dirty woman. Not that kind of experience, though! She was one of my tenants, and when she left the house it stank. The spare shower had been used as a cat toilet, the carpets smelled of cat piss, the kitchen was crawling with roaches, the oven was beyond recall,and the refrigerator was the proverbial biochemistry lab.

The reason she left was that her husband had been promoted to a new job as assistant store manager in a well-known Dow Jones Index company that occurs late in the alphabet, and I found myself asking "how on earth could that man marry such a filthy woman?" (I should mention here that the wife was home all day and did not work outside the house. She did not appear to be depressed, though she complained that she thought her husband might well be gay as they had not had sex in three years.)

OK not every one has had this experience, but most of us men do prefer a woman who keeps a clean kitchen, does not leave dirty dishes out overnight etc. We do not wish to shack up with a slattern.

So my bet is that many (not all) of these men have had a bad experience with a woman who was not a good housekeeper, and that it has nothing to do with oral sex.

Another possibility though is that "clean" is a code word for not sexually promiscuous. The late Princess Diana was quoted as saying, with regard to her virginity, that she was keeping herself “tidy” for someone special. The words "clean" and "tidy" seem to have a special affinity for each other and often occur in tandem.

And finally, to people of a religious bent, the word "unclean" may also have special connotations, especially in connection with menstruation and skin diseases. So with these god-fearin' guys, you definitely don't want to be getting menstrual blood on the bedsheets or zits on your face.