Letters to the Editor
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ooof!
After I got done laughing, an awful creeping feeling entered my gut while reflecting on old jobs and co-workers, friends and family. LW, I have done this. Not exactly, but definitely, I've been caught in the act of mocking, demeaning or otherwise disrespecting someone I was supposed to look up to. Usually it was in times of stress when I wasn't present and I've noticed that everyone falls into this daze sometimes.
Cary is spot on here because it won't do if you attempt to diminish it. The only thing the LW can do it face it, contrite in her apology. This is a learning experience about the power our words have. It's really really funny too... or it will be in a year!
Put it into a 'Saturday Night Live' kind of skit in your mind if you are able. We all do dumb things!
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Who is writing these subtitles?
I don't usually make too much of the editorial process, but yesterday's and today's subtitles seem to really distort what the letter itself says.
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Hm. I'm liking the idea of utter denial.
As much as I admire Cary's response, the only thing that's ever worked for me in this situation is complete and utter denial.
It's happened to me about 3 times, and yes...I have a huge yap.
I advise you to stare at the ceiling and think of England.
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Get your resume in order
Immediately cut back on your expenses and get your resume in order. You may not be fired at the next meeting, but you have definitely burned some bridges.
Start looking for another job.
SJ
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@albval...
"I advise you to stare at the ceiling and think of England"
very very funny!
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Is she your boss or your client?
From your letter it's difficult to tell if you are actually an employee or an independent contractor. When you say she "outsources" her interior design to you, it sounds like you are a freelancer working on a per project basis. If that is true, she is actually your client, not your boss. The worst case scenerio is that she simply won't outsource any more work to you and you'll have to find other sources of income. But that's not the same as being fired. Freelancers usually have many clients and it's not unusual to lose one every now and then. Painful, yes, but not the same as being fired. The problem is whether you can use her as a reference. If the quality of your work has been good, you might want to put the question to her directly. Tell her you are expanding your freelance business and ask if you can use her as a reference. This might even make her rethink her reaction. After all, if you really are a good designer, she won't want to lose you and may overlook your outburst.
I think the problem here may be that you were thinking of her as a boss all along and not a client. Anyone who has done freelance work knows that some clients can be unpredictable, tempermental and ready to change their plans at the drop of a hat. Yes, you're working for her, but you're also working for youself. The key is to a good freelancer-client relationship is in very, very good communication. Don't wait for a client to get in touch. Let them know you want to be kept in the loop. And draw up a contract to make sure that you will be paid if you do X amount of work on a project even if the client changes her mind and decides she doesn't want it. And oh, by the way, use seperate email accounts for business and pleasure, that should go a long way towards solving your problem too.
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Oh, stop being such a girl
You apologized. She accepted your apology. You apologized again, and wanting to get off the merry-go-round, she didn't respond to your response. Perhaps she may have better things to do? And maybe you could fill your hours with something else besides handwringing? You did what you did. She wants to meet with you. Show up like a grownup, talk about the work, and forfuckingget the rest of the your adolescent angst.
(I'm not usually this impatient, but for the love of dog, your spinning your wheels about a minor issue that seems to be already dead.)
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client?
Sorry, but you're clearly not a freelancer. As a freelancer, I assure you, they are not my clients. I'm their employee. It's rough work, this freelance business, and we rely a LOT on reputation... we can be dropped so easily from any job with no recourse.... our income is unstable already, so losing a good freelance gig can be nasty.
I'm going to go with Cary's advice, but for the moment, I'd say, start looking hard for some other work.
I had a situation not unlike this recently that was resolved finally today. I was concerned because of some things I had said when I was feeling loose-lipped, and was feeling certain for a week or so that I was actually not going to get PAID for some work I'd done, in addition to being "fired." Then it all worked out fine with a little sweet talking and major groveling -- I got paid and remain on contract. Just be nice and apologize. Grovel a bit. Like Cary said.
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You're immature, LW. Reminds me of junior high school note passing.
You lash out at your boss in an immature way, though indirectly since the text was meant to go to someone else. Of course your behavior was sadly immature, petty, even cruel. You may dislike your boss, but get some balls and don't write little catty attacks to your bffs so that you can snicker together. Act like a professional adult and then maybe your ass won't be fired for behaving like a junior high school gossipy ringleader.
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So Cary,
Is the Thelma and Louise part where they shove each other out of a Palladian window twisted together in swathes of pale-colored celadon curtains of Dupioni silk?
Personally, I favor something less romantic. I think Mortified should crawl on all fours into the boss's office wearing a studded black dog collar and with whip between clamped teeth while wearing a t-shirt with the embroidered message of "Whip me. I deserve it." Only something this desperate will work.