Letters to the Editor
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Don't enable him any longer...
I dated a seemingly normal guy when I was in my early 30's for a few months. We went our separate ways. After a bad marriage on my part, I looked him up and found he was living with his mother, and had been for most of the last 15 years. I eventually married him and everytime the going got rough, he went home to mother. After we divorced, he moved back to mother again and is still there 5 years later. The man is now in his early 60's. He lived independently maybe 15 years out of his entire adult life, 11 of which were in his first marriage. Mom had a bad marriage and she and her son are very close. I resent the fact that it was too easy for him to run home and believe he and his family are both responsible for his failure to fully develop as a human being. There is such a thing as being too close and too comfortable in the old roles, to the extent that you stop normal growth. The letterwriter better be careful or she will end up with a 60 year old son who never left the nest.