He died from a feart attack the first time he tried coke.

I've never seen a drunk look attractive or someone high look or act attractive or interesting. I have seen drunks and druggies destroy lives.

I think the LW is fine. He should dump her for immaturity.

The majority of people don't think coke is OK. Weed is different. Alcohol is a drug.

I've never done drugs or alcohol. I've been tolerant in the past, but that's gone. Druggies and drunks are not comfortable to be around, so I avoid them

So many Salonistas admit to mental illness, dysfunctional family, etc. I wonder how that overlaps with the admitted drug use. Self-medicating mental illness does probably feel good.

Look at Whitney Houston on "Being Bobbie Brown". Crack is whack, ya'll. That's what high on coke/crack and possibly weed looks like.

MacKenzie Phillips talks about it. It's ugly.

Why is the LW wrong for looking down on people who do that to themselves, by choice, in their 30s evidently?

If your girlfriend is hot, I'd like to party with her. She can do all the coke she wants and I will treat him like a party whore.

If LW doesn't mind GF's risky behavior w/drug usage--that's bad enough--then he ought to consider that he might get BUSTED alongside her!

Booze isn't much better--try living w/a sloppy drunk (a quart of beer before 10 am; THAT'S a problem)--but it's still legal.

There's also the concept of "peer pressure." Sorry, but if GF is old enough to use, then she's old enough to say "no;" she can't blame it on her friends anymore.

I wish LW would post to let us know what he's decided to do. Right, wrong or indifferent, there are some really good arguments on either side of the matter...

"Mark my words, Ms. Girlfriend. Next it'll be your libertine friends, your ex boyfriends, your past romantic exploits, your tastes in movies, the books you buy, your carbon footprint, how you cook vegetables, your clothes, etc."

This is like the DARE argument that pot is a gateway drug and all you smokers are going to die in the streets with a needle in your arm!

The poster was just making a joke, right?

Okay, let me get this straight. Guy is "losing sleep" because, before they ever dated, his girlfriend did (once!) something he doesn't approve of. Geez, get a real problem, man.

Mr. Uptight Student needs a lot more life experience and maybe a little psychological help with his control issues. There are so many really serious problems people can have, it's hard to take anyone seriously who manifests physical symptoms because a consenting adult tried an illicit drug once, a year ago.

Is she kind to people? Does she keep a job, pay her bills, take care of her family, pet dogs, help strangers, laugh at your bad jokes? In what kind of warped world does any of that matter LESS than what she did at a party before you met?

Folks who know nothing about drug use (aside from the DARE/Just say no crap they've been fed) always seem to assume that anyone who uses one drug, one time, is automatically condemned to a slow death in a trailer park. As your writer himself puts it, he's worried about "what she'll do next." God willing, her next step will be to find a mature boyfriend who accepts the fact that you can't control people.

Mark my words, Ms. Girlfriend. Next it'll be your libertine friends, your ex boyfriends, your past romantic exploits, your tastes in movies, the books you buy, your carbon footprint, how you cook vegetables, your clothes, etc.

So get out NOW, because your boyfriend's problem isn't you, it's himself. He hasn't learned how to feel secure in his own beliefs even if others don't live by them. He'll get there, sooner or later, but do you really want to be his rough draft?

Judgement often = common sense.

And, yeah, the LW's fearful. So? Fear is often a very good thing.

The worst rock climbers to be with are those who aren't afraid of heights.

Dear LW, despite what you might think from the high concentration of stoner apologists ganging up on you on this post, most people in "real" life would share your disgust and alarm at your significant other's behavior.

Very few people in "real" life think that snorting cocaine is a minor thing...

...or (most amusing) that the snortee by their hoovering action thereby inexplicably (and contradictorily?) becomes a Brave and praise-worthy Voyager Courageously launching into Life, armed with oodles of drug-induced Flowing Creative Juices!!!!

Yeah, right.

If you believe that, I'd be happy to put you touch with my friend in Nigeria who's trying to get millions of dollars out of the country and who is willing to share it with YOU, yes YOU, Sir or Madam!

LW, believe your fear, and own up to your good judgement--it's based on common sense. You're much better off without Little Miss "I'll-try anything-to-get-high", whether she's off doing coke or just the plain ol' boring and legal alcohol that she also seems to have so much trouble with.

But you already knew that, didn't you? Damn, you're smart.

Yeah, the LW has control issues. Looking down on people who have ever done drugs in the past is a real problem. The LW recognizes this.

But if college was "more than a decade ago" for the LW's girlfriend, that would make her at least 32. That's a little bit old to be experimenting with cocaine at a party "because of peer pressure." It's especially old to be stupid enough to mix it with alcohol. And for her to treat that casually--well, I'd be concerned too.

One thing I've learned is that it's really hard to force an alcoholic out of your house legally once you let one live with you.

I can see why people like the War on Drugs because you can always narc an illegal drug addict and have the person removed from your house and your life by the police.

I think we should be able to take any kind of addict to court for "skeezy addict behavior that harms other people" and that's how the legal system should enter the equation.

You should be able to take the addict to an Addiction Court and get some kind of legal intervention from the system when needed.

Right now we're burning up a lot of taxpayer money and not getting much of a reward for it.

The money is being spent in a very inefficient manner, and the people spending it are getting more out of touch with science and common sense every day.

Watch the news from northern Mexico -- it's not good. Drug cartels are arming themselves like they're in Afghanistan! They've got helicopters and artillery now. What's next?

Do we want northern Mexico to turn into southern Afghanistan?

There really has to be a better way -- and the better way, IMO, needs to include better ways for people to deal with alcoholics too.

It's wrong to empower people who suffer from the behavior of drug addicts without equally empowering people who suffer from the behavior of alcoholics.