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I made all the right decisions while others screwed up. But shouldn't I have compassion for them?
  • Dear Afro Goddess, it''s me 'Anonymous' who wrote about Alice's neigbor & my credit card debt.

    Dear Afro Goddess,

    Thanks for reading my post with such care. Had you been one of my friends, perhaps you would have spoken up for me because you might have taken that same CARE to concern yourself with my situation.

    There is a 1000 word limit to posts on SALON. I already worked hard to pare it down from 1332 words.

    I could write a library.

    Therefore because I cannot convey all of my facts spanning 2.5 decades in a single post, nor would I have the energy, I will leave it mostly 'as is', your judgement of me.

    Just a few points I might mention:

    *Does it count that my mother desired my suicide?

    *I was an only child and could tell no sibling.

    *That she was a powerful businesswoman decorated by the government?

    *That her mother hated her?

    *That her mother tried to rule their family by fury and rage?

    *That my mother tried to rule me with fury and rage?

    *Her mother committed suicide, to spite her own son?

    *That son and his wife later committed suicide?

    *That my cousins, in their 60s, have now come forward and stated that my mother intimidated them and they were powerless to help me?

    *My maternal aunt agreed I was persecuted but had declined to tell my children?

    *I lost my memory, personality, soul - and had to construct myself.

    *My mother told people I was crazy and LAUGHED while doing so.

    *My mother told people I went to Seattle to join a cult. Not true.

    *My mother so poisoned my children, that after her death, my son threw my suitcases on the lawn saying that I did not belong there, that I was a guest upon the land.

    * That the IMMIGRATION of my new country believed my story of persecution and allowed me residential priveliges based on humanitarian reasons.

    * That my mother and my ex-H so poisoned my children's minds that I could NOT have spoken to them because they had also become abusers.

    * That I was hunted like prey.

    * My mother's business partners who saw and agree there was viciousness by both my mother and ex-H, have declined to say this in a letter.

    *That my mother favored my ex-H and eventually judged him to be so deceitful that she stated she did not want him at her funeral.

    *That when I arrived in Seattle my body was slightly deformed from the weight of internalized abuse over decades?

    Afro Goddess, if I were in your queendom, you would have defended me, I feel, and I would have been powerful, like you.

    But, better late than never. I liberated myself. I overcame violence with non violence. I have credit card debt which I , now emotionally well, can begin to clear up. It is the least of my troubles. I am now happy and well.

    Thanks for your time and trouble to read and respond to my post.