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and that's why you're so emotional about other people's lives.
There's that 'what if' element that makes it easier for you to judge them than look at what you might have missed out on had you let your hair down a bit more and been a little bit less self righteous all that time.
And you might resent the irresponsibility that people can get away with, 'cuz look, you're doing it right, but all these other irresponsible people seem to be getting by anyhow... it's not fair is it?
And, perhaps, you attract the irresponsible people to you by your ability to function well... irresponsible people love someone who can help 'em out all the time.
I know of which I speak... I struggle with this myself. But I think I was cured by marrying the most irresponsible man alive. I'm divorcing him and enjoying letting myself screw up more often.