Letters to the Editor
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Why did the LW's friend mention the Mystery Man at all?
I agree with the posters who point out the LW's friend has no obligation to share things about her life with the LW if she doesn't want to. That said, it strikes me as kind of obnoxious for the friend to mention she's seeing someone new but refuse to elaborate. In my world at least, when a friend announces that she is seeing someone new she usually follows up by sharing at least a little more about it -- where they met, what the person does maybe, where they went on the first date -- so it doesn't strike me as unusual that the LW would have expected her friend to elaborate after saying she was seeing someone. Of course LW's friend is entitled to keep the relationship to herself, but in that case she shouldn't have said anything at all. Otherwise it's a bit of a tease.
I don't think any of that means the that LW is entitled to know about her friend's relationship, but it wouldn't be out of line for her to ask her friend not to mention something like that if she doesn't actually want to talk about it.
(Oh, and I'm an INFJ.)