Letters to the Editor
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excellent comments about choices, allie
"You don't get to hurt other people just because you've been hurt yourself. Cut it out. It's not all about you; this man's wife is a person. His children are people. You are hurting them. Stop it. Find solace elsewhere."
There seem to be 2 camps: the "she's a victim of abuse" camp, and the "she's immoral for dating a married man" camp. And there's arguements over which is true.
Well, BOTH are true. Why does only one have to be true? Both are true, and connected (she is with abusers because she makes bad choices). She makes bad choices because the abusive relationships have conditioned her to think she doesn't deserve better.
We all have control over our choices and our lives get much better when we decide to step up to the plate and take ownership of our choices and their repercussions.