Letters to the Editor
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Look at the referent, not the signifier
My husband lost his beautiful hair around 30 and we must have spent ... oh ... half an hour total mourning the loss of it. He aged young compared to his friends, but I've noticed in the ensuing years that he hasn't gotten any older since then, while they're all falling out of youth into middle age with much more of a splatter.
Hair loss is a symbol, that's all. Your boyfriend is transferring his feelings about mortality and how his life is going on to his head, and he must transfer it back again to his life. He can change his life. He can't change his hair.
I also agree with the suggestion of him working on his body. Now THAT is something men can do a WHOLE lot about, and too few of them do. If he starts now, weight lifting (just within reason), running and generally being a fit and vital guy, he will maintain his youthful virility and sexual atractiveness forever. More importantly, he will FEEL young and fit and virile and that's much more important than how he looks.
Hair loss is associated with higher than normal levels of testorone and when it comes to sex that's a good thing, right?
Finally, Cary says: As a young and presumably attractive woman, you have enormous power and freedom. I disagree with this statement 100%. A young woman's supposed sexual power is remarkably useless to her unless she has the self esteem and options to use it wisely to find a loving partner. If she just fritters it away on men who want only her youth and beauty it's amazing just what a poisoned chalice it can be. I feel much more powerful and free now at 38, with job, family, health and love, than I ever did as a footloose and fancy free - albeit more pneumatic 25 year old.