Letters to the Editor
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Age is a factor
I'm amazed at all of these letters back and forth either slapping the 41 year old dude on the back for landing some young thang, or condemning him for the same. The point here is that while the 23 year old woman is still a newbie at adulthood, the 41 year old has been an adult for some time now. I think most of us knows that guy who consistently dates women 20 years younger than himself. I roll my eyes, pray for love but really find it a bit creepy.
As a woman, perhaps I put too much emphasis on the "talking" stuff of a relationship, but really, where was this relationship going? What on earth would they talk about? Did they share similar levels of experience and sophistication on a wide variety of topics? If so, one of them is either super mature or super stunted. I understand heartbreak for sure, but even when I was 30 I was over the extended mooniness over a failed relationship. After awhile, you learn to just move on.
That he's pining over this woman for so long makes me think that perhaps he had the emotional makeup of a 16 year old, and she left him because she was 'too old' for him. Or perhaps she realized he only wanted her for her body and wisely called it off, intuiting that truth and realizing that someday she'd be old and grey and they had nothing to talk about at the end of the day. Sure, perhaps it was a great love, but nine times out of ten (I'm being generous), such a May-December romance is exploitative, with power flowing from the older and richer party.