Letters to the Editor
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Judgement Day!
Wow! The age difference seems to have bothered more respondents than the situation. The femme in this breakup is not a minor and she wasn't when she got involved with the guy she's now leaving. Interesting the amount of moralizing going on here when the question was how can the LW help buddy boy get past this catastrophe. I do believe he's got some issues, but the age difference isn't one of them.
Cary gave really good advice and, as per usual, did not pass judgement on the (adult) people involved. Good show, although Cary's sometimes non-judgemental to a fault. Not this time, though. Of course, I'm a perv by the standard set forth by some of the replies, since I wouldn't rule out a relationship with a woman because of such an age difference alone. Then again, if it didn't work I'd feel the reason was a clear and present danger all along, and would be accepting.
There are good reasons why a 41 year old guy probably shouldn't date a 23 year old, and the letter to Cary pretty much says it all. There's just not enough common ground in most of these relationships. Later, though, it improves. This is why I'm not horrified that Fred Thompson is married to a woman 24 years his junior. I don't think that's what will keep him out of the White House, either.
But the LW's question was fielded quite well by Cary (and on the fly, no less!). Give credit where credit is due and pass on the judgement passing!