Letters to the Editor
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I stand by what I say
Ben Dover wrote:
"Practically speaking your comments on getting carded and getting looks proves my point of the insecurity of most women, especially the more attractive ones, and their need to be younger and their desire to compete with younger women. It is the norm."
I enjoy looking younger than my age, Ben. Why shouldn't I? You seem to be the insecure one because you obviously don't want me to. You want me to feel bad about myself because I'm over 35. Sorry, but I won't go there. I will not take men that don't like older women even if they look young for their age seriously.
I don't have a problem with younger women. I have better things to do with my time than "compete" with them. They can do what they want. If anything, I empathise with younger women. Many younger women do not find men old enough to be their fathers attractive, no matter how much $$$ they have.
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Harlequina
Why are you being so defensive and histrionic? What seems to be the problem?
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To the Anonymous poster who says that
most women are trading sex for money. You are right, they are. It is a bargaining chip to be exchanged. I am all for it. Again, let practicality and pragmatism be the barometer. Here is a very accuracate depiction:
http://films.thelot.com/films/41202
It shows what typically really goes on when people date. We aren't dating women for clever conversation and dialogue. We want sex, period.
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Most women are whores
Tara, prostitution is trading sex for money. I live on this planet, and if you check the facts, it is a common practice in many species here, including our own. Actually, the phrase stuck in my mind because a WOMAN said it to me once, believe it or not - only she said 'ALL women are whores'. I'm being more accurate. Facts are facts, and (to engage your fragment of Buddhism) whether they have been created by our thoughts doesn't alter the issue. "Don't read the stoics"? Have you? From the quality of your post, I doubt it.
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There is no problem.
I'm just telling you that I enjoy looking young for my age. And I do. I don't feel like an "older woman;" even though I am technically supposed to be one. I still feel the same way I did when I was 20. I exercise a lot. I hike a lot. I enjoy going on long walks. I am one of those people who can walk for miles and never get tired. I love to to dance. Many people my age look much older than me, and can't get around like I can. So when I see all this stuff in the media about what being an older woman is supposed to be like, I find it very hard to identify because it just doesn't apply to my life. Even though I do experience a lot of flack from people once they find out how old I really am because I don't act like an older woman should.
I also know that there are men that don't like women over 35 no matter how young these women look. If you're not one of these men, then please excuse my vehemence, as it was unintentional.
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Sex for money
Ben, that video is hilarious! However, I can't say I'm happy about our situation. I certainly think prostitution should be legal, as it is ridiculous doublethink to pretend that is not omnipresent, but isn't it sad that our 'higher' needs, such as love and friendship, get trampled on? I say this both as someone who was dumped within days of telling my girlfriend I was dropping out of med school when I was in my 20's, and as someone who has had women throw themselves at me in the most crude way in my 40's when they perceived me as affluent. Where's the love? I don't know.
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Stereotypes vs life
So when I see all this stuff in the media about what being an older woman is supposed to be like, I find it very hard to identify because it just doesn't apply to my life.
I second this, and wonder why the stereotypes keep getting repeated even when nothing solid supports them. Are there women my age who are "going downhill"? Sure, and there are men my age in the same boat, but for the most part, I see women my age traveling, working, seeing their kids through high school and college, and otherwise enjoying life.
My attractiveness to men may have been relevant sixty years ago, before women were allowed full access to the marketplace and some measure of reproductive control. Then, sure, a woman in her 40s without a husband was in serious trouble.
Now it doesn't really matter whether I marry or not, so I have to wonder why everyone cares. Why this vitriol?
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To be fair...
...there are people in real life that do fit these stereotypes. The corporate media just says they're the only people that really exist.
I have learned a long time ago to take most of what the corporate media says with a grain of salt, and pity the millions of people that believe it.
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Now it doesn't really matter whether I marry or not, so I have to wonder why everyone cares. Why this vitriol?
The vitriol is due to the fact that men can see that women are perfectly happy ignoring them if they can't have everythging their own way whereas men are too horny to live comfortably without women. How often am I going to have to explain this?
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Well, okay...
The vitriol is due to the fact that men can see that women are perfectly happy ignoring them if they can't have everythging their own way whereas men are too horny to live comfortably without women. How often am I going to have to explain this?
Well, okay, but you do realize that this isn't our problem?
Anyway, according to Ben Dover, Brightstar et. al., nobody would want me anyway. I saw the other side of my expiration date years ago, which brings me back to what's puzzling me.
Why this anger directed specifically at older women? If we're all so gross and disgusting, why not just leave us alone and go chase after sweet, young hotties?