Letters to the Editor
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To Anonymous @ "Blame Men"
Just curious - you refer to the LW as a bitter old woman. YOu're in your late 30s. Do you consider yourself an old man? (The bitterness of course is indisputable.)
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Revenge of the Nerds
I find all the letters from guys telling us older women we deserve what we get because when we were younger we rejected them now it's their turn so funny. Hey fellas get over it! And believe me anyone you turn down for a date isn't missing anything if that's your attitude.
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RE: Revenge of the Nerds
Ditto for all you old bags that are chest thumping that you only date young men, (the young men who are rejected by women their own age), and the men your age want nothing to do with you.
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Oh and one other thing
Older women find younger men attractive too just like older men find younger women attractive. And an awful lot of younger men appreciate older women. The difference is women have always been taught that dating a younger man makes us look foolish. But that attitude is rapidly changing. In fact, after reading these letters my own attitude has changed. Why on earth would I want to waste my time with some old guy who just wants to live on the sofa everynight when I can be out dancing with some young stud? Hmmm, yup I've got some fun times ahead.
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Now this is getting fun
Anonymous I'm 43 and have yet to date a younger man, but as a follow up letter I wrote says I'm changing my attitude on that one. As for being an "old bag" that is too funny. I practically live at my gym and have guys of all ages hitting on me. And I've dated more since I hit 40, guys my age and older, than at any other time in my life. Like I said get over it, and anyone you've turned down DEFINITELY isn't missing anything.
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@Lived it
The "old bags" comment wasn't aimed at you....but if the shoe fits. You might ask yourself why a man would want an older woman if a younger one was available. I don't for a second question what the motives of a younger woman with an older man would be.
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Are women spoiled rotten?
None of the ones I date want to have kids, and keep breaking up with me because I do.
Therefore they must be spoiled rotten.......
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Geez anonymous
Why would a younger guy want an older woman? This is a pointless argument because clearly you have a bias that you're unwilling to question. Maybe it's for the same reasons younger women go with older men, because we're intelligent, great conversationalists, and sexy as hell. And they have the self confidence to be with a woman, not a girl.
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RE: Geez Anonymous
My bad. I forgot there are no young women that are intelligent, great conversationalists, and sexy as hell. Self confidence to be with an older woman ? You kidder.
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TO Blackvegan, about looking too young:
Do you ever watch What Not to Wear? There have been several women on who look young for their age, but not in that good way that helps them navigate the world of their peers.
I would bet that there is a way to tweak your hair, makeup and dress so that you look, not older per se, but a more sophisticated age. Please look into doing that. I myself have been taken for 18 to 20 years younger than I am, and I know YOU know what I mean when I say that it sounds a lot better than it actually is.
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RE: So What...
If you really care for your third-world, younger bride, you'd leave her a decent insurance policy so she won't have to "have a hard time" when you die!
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No sympathy!
I was about to say some things when I realized that youngdetroit has described wonderfully the same experience I have had in my life. So I only have to repeat his words
And as one of the girls you passed over back in your late teens and early twenties (too poor to be hot and too smart to be considered datable), I have zero sympathy. None.
I am also getting a bit of passive revenge. My inclination for clean living, plus good genetics, means that I'm aging splendidly. I don't even have crow's feet yet. I can afford decent clothes now. The fact that I spent more time in the library than in the bar means I can carry on a conversation. All of the "she's too smart for me" guys, now divorced from whatever once-hot idiot they married, are whining for sympathy.
I think this is funny, especially since they seem to think I should be grateful.
LW, don't stress singlehood. The hard reality is that there are things far worse than being single, and one of them is being married to a jerk. Even dating a jerk is worse.
The loneliest place of all is the middle of a bad relationship, and desperation is the quickest way to get there. Never give in to it. There is no contract we sign at birth that grants us the relationship of our choice at every life stage. Sometimes we get what we want. Sometimes we don't. That's just the way it works. It's nothing to be taken personally.
Learning to love what you have goes a long way toward preserving your sanity. It's also the difference between loneliness and solitude, and in an overstimulating world, solitude is a precious thing.
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Younger men "date" older women for 1 reason
only: easy sex. It isn't for intellectual discourse and conversation. It is because they are the easiest marks to hit and young guys are horny. Get over it. Most, 99.9%, of all young guys will never marry or be with an older woman long term. There are no benefits. Younger women are hotter, more attractive, etc.
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So, Ben, let's see if I have this right
Hot younger men date older women because they are the easiest targets for sex. Hot younger men can have hot younger women, but, when they are choosing older women, are doing so only for sex, not for intelligent conversation or anything like that. Just sex, because it's easier with an older woman than a younger woman. So, hot younger men eschew great sex with hot younger women in order to have easier, less hot sex with older women.
Older men date younger women because younger women are hotter and sex with hotter women, is, in most men's minds even if not in fact, better sex. But, as we've already demonstrated, older women are the easiest targets for sex. So if older men prefer to date younger women, it must be because older men prefer harder-to-obtain sex with younger women than easier sex with older women.
Older women date hot younger men because they have much better bodies, more sexual longevity and less bitterness than older men. And of course, because it's so easy to have sex with them, with their a) belief that older women are the easiest targets and b) preference for easy rather than hot sex.
Now why do younger women date older men? They can't get it up, they can't make it last, and their libidos are so low they aren't even interested in chasing the 'easy' sex offered by older women....they want the 'trophy' sex with the hot younger woman.
Is your theory that hot younger women don't really enjoy sex, and would prefer to barter it to rich older men that hot young studs?