Letters to the Editor
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It's not that I don't believe
the LW, or think she is some kind of untouchable, but something is wrong here. I am in my late 40s, childless by choice, and I became single after being divorced at age 40. It is my experience - and the experience of my contemporaries - that the pool of eligible males DO NOT want children, and they REALLY are not interested in raising anyone else's child.
What most of the single men I know in my social circle want more than anything else in a woman is financial independence. They do not want dependency. Now, I live in a major metropolitan area, with scads of terrific single men of all ages. I know lots of women - from their mid 40s to late 50s - who have their pick of men. But these women have their own careers, their own pensions, their own houses, etc.
I have been in a stable relationship with a wonderful man who has three children. (The youngest just went off to college.) The first thing he said to me on our first day: "I don't want more children. And if you even think you want children, we go no further."
LW needs to start fishing in friendlier waters.