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Before we were together, I learned everything about her on the Web -- but now I pretend I don't know a thing!
  • To paraphrase...

    This is what I'm hearing from the LW:

    "I can't believe what this blog said about my girlfriend, before she was my girlfriend, and now that I know this stuff, I feel like I betrayed her by not telling her ahead of time."

    This is what I'm thinking about the LW's problem:

    "Waaah, freakin' waaah!"

    Okay, so you get to hook the girl of your dreams, but can't seem to enjoy that for it's own sake since you (supposedly) know all about this juicy info. ("info." = gossip, in this case) about her past love life from a blog...and we ALL know the Internet is the paragon of truth, isn't it?

    Tell you what, LW, here's a creative writing assignment of mine I want you to read...no, read this right now, you'll LOVE it:

    Think about the tastiest, most delicious cake you've ever had. Imagine eating that magnificent cake, bite after bite, savoring each morsel as it goes down. "But wait, something's not right," you say. How was that cake prepared in the back? Did the baker wash their hands properly? Was the kitchen clean enough? Perhaps it's not enough for you to have your cake and eat it too...No, you have to scrutinize the crumbs left over, to make sure what you ate was, yes indeed, a clean, wholesome cake! "Oh no, maybe there's something in that cake not right," you say. You just gotta know for sure! So you go puking it up only to find out, no, it was just a cake after all, though it's hard to tell any more amongst the...well, you know....Now you've made a mess and lost whatever memory you had of eating that delicious cake. OOHHHH THE HORROR!!!

    Okay, that was a bit gross...the point, LW, is that there's something in your wiring making you harpoon this relationship, and you need to figure it out or fix it before you spend the rest of your life nashing your teeth over your growing number of failed relationships. People tend to be their own worst critics...and in turn, their own worst enemies. Don't let that ruin a perfectly good relationship.