Letters to the Editor
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It had to be me,
It had to be me,
I wandered around,
knowing full well
who I have to please.
I make me be true,
I make me be blue,
And even be glad just to be sad - Thinking of me.
None other I've seen,
Would make me a queen.
They might be cross,
or try to be boss,
and that wouldn't do.
Nobody else gives me a thrill,
with all my faults, I love me still
It had to be me,
wonderful me,
It had to be meeeeeeeeeee.
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Literature and Movies Have Already Been There Done That
LW, someone mentioned "Notes on a Scandal." But there is also, that oddly entertaining comedy, "Spank the Monkey," and Sigourney Weaver did a great job of dealing with her stepson's ardor in "Tadpole." If you really want to get dark about dealing with inappropriate sexual conquests read or watch the movie, "Damage."
Perhaps your husband will notice you watching these films and see the need for couples counseling to get your sex life back on track.
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Don't worry (bum bum - bum bum - bum bum)
Be horny (bum bum - bum bum - bum bum)
Oh, never mind.
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To in the woods re: 40 ...
Heard THAT!!!!! =P
Oh, and LW, don't do it. Don't even think it. Self-flagellation and/or tons of masturbation prn is my prescription, but others here have even better Rx's.
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How nice to be right all of the time
How nice it is to know exactly what to say to someone in a "moral" conflict.
How nice it must be to have "correct" thoughts and actions at all moments, knowing that if you were in the same situation you'd do EXACTLY what you're telling the letter writer to do.
How nice it is to not be an "evil" person... to follow the path of "right" and "good" at all times.
How nice to make clean seperations between "thinking" and "acting".
How nice to suppress all of your own deep dark corners of mind with barbed wire, spray paint and duct tape.
How nice to pretend you're not as fucked up as the rest of the world.
Enjoy your facade. It suits you well.
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He might need an older woman...
But it's not you. About the time I turned 18, I met a divorced older woman, who was an company executive. It was a real high point of my life, that I still remember fondly. Men (boys) in their late teens are fucking machines. We took a honeymoon for a week before I left town (she had lots of money), and we made love over 40 times. If you get crazy and screw this kid, he will be after you every few hours. It would be great, but as others have pointed out, really stupid. Find a guy about your age who needs a sex buddy, like you do, or a horny 20 year old.
The feminists have really screwed up this male-female thing. It is not the least bit harmful to a young male to be seduced by an older woman, as long as she is not his stepmom. They would both get something great out of it.
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You should not always "do it if it feels good"; You deserve hot sex from your husband!
It's one of the toughest things for people to realize in our day and age, when media are sex-saturated for profits and there are more relaxed attitudes about sex.
Believe me, I'm all for the above. It just makes things easier. Things creating a conceptual space for the plausibility of a totally stupid, self-destructive action.
People have probably had these issues since the dawn of time. We are built to want to fuck, especially other human beings in the bloom of youth. I'm not even married yet, in my early 30s, and I have had couple of affairs with consenting students of mine (post-course, of course- way too rsky otherwise!). Difference is now with a steady, hot and high libido gilfriend, these girls' attraction is just ego-boosting. I don't take any of it seriously anymore because I'm satisfied with with my hot high libido loving girlfriend (can I get an Amen?).
So that's the real deal here, missy. BTW 35 is not old!! Some douchebbag earlier was ragging on "pre menopausal" ladies from the suburbs, blah blah. Quite misogynist and obviously coming from a guy with little experience and bullshit views on women and age. I fucked a 47 year old last year. Her body was fresh as a daisy -- way beyond my expectations. POINT BEING that YOU ARE STILL FUCKABLE and DESERVE TO BE FUCKED GOOD by your HUSBAND -- IN FACT, IT'S IS JOB TO TO FUCK YOU, YOU'RE MARRIED!!
So you need to talk this shit out with him. He may be feeling the ravages of age and unattractive himself. Help each other. If you're not gettin' any, that's too big a deal to pass up. Tell him you need it, it's in the contract, and he doesn't give it to you you'll find it somewhere else (with an adult not in your family!).
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It's still incest
Is that too fine a point to put on it? This is not the same as an older (not "old") married woman having the hots for her teenage pool boy... that's the stuff of Desperate Housewives. This is not even the same as new stepmom to an already teenage son who she has never met before.
This is about a woman who raised a boy from a young age -- she, presumably, thinks of him as her "own son." She put band-aids on his skinned knee, and punished him when he broke curfew. Yes, acting on her feelings is wrong... but so is having them. Parents (moms and dads) who want to have sex with their children is deviant behavior. Their childrens' friends... creepy, but okay.
Haven't there been studies to say that growing up with a person from a young age (either as guardian/child or sibling relationship) precludes your ability to find them sexually attractive? It is possible that she never felt he was "her son," but that she was more of an occassional baby-sitter... but that is an issue for her marriage and her therapist.
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You had your shot at 17...
...get on with your life, and leave him alone. Besides, he's your stepSON. You have accepted parental responsibilities, and the thought of an adult sniffing after their teenager is repulsive.
I'm rather suprised by many of the responces that seem to think an older woman having sex with an underage boy is such an empowering and wonderful thing for everyone involved. Swich the genders and those same people would be screaming for the guy's balls on a silver platter.
Make no mistake. A 17 year old boy would rutt with anything he could fit his dick in. Don't flatter yourself. He'd tell his friends and you'd just be a pathetic old joke.
You were 17 once. You had your teenage years...leave him to his.