Letters to the Editor
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Consider the future
I don't have any personal experience with this kind of situation, but wouldn't it help LW to take the long-view here? I don't think it matters how hot or mature or self-possessed her stepson is, acting on her attraction or even confessing it to her stepson is just inappropriate. If she confesses to or acts on her attraction, it'll be a miserable mess to deal with down the road. Once you act, it's not like you can compartmentalize your stepson and never deal with that or think about it again. There's no happy ending to that storyline. Rather, on that path one could eventually guarantee major drama and painful therapy for the LW, stepson, and husband. LW should think about what it will be like to look back on how she handled this situation after the fact, and take care to minimize her regret. A bit of serious meditation on that thought should be enough to cool her fire.