Hey dumbshit, it is a reality. Why the fuck do you think so many rich men pull the ripcord in California before the 10th anniversary, you moron. Please, do your research before you open you piehole and spew goo. Until the 10th year a man can be ordered to pay alimony for 1/2 the duration of the marriage. After the 10th year the law provides that he pay alimony until he is dead, she is dead or she remarries. In the State of Washington a man can legally be ordered to pay child support if he cohabitates with a woman who has children (that are not his!) and breaks off the relationship. There are other states with lifetime alimony as well including Florida, Oregon, and several other states. After the division of assets, in absence of a prenuptial agreement, the other party should be on their own. In California, if you are married more than 10 years the Court can and may invalidate the prenuptial agreement, if there is one and divide the man's assets. For that matter paternity fraud should be a crime, punishable by prison and fine, in all states. Funny, how it is only "liberated" women who profit from these issues.

http://www.nytimes.com/2005/05/22/magazine/22GIGI.html?ex=1274500800&en=2bf95036480a7249&ei=5090&partner=rssuserland&emc=rss

Your ex-wife is a lucky, lucky woman.......assuming she got out in one piece. How could anyone live with such a hate-filled misogynist as you? Get a life, get over it, realise you're really only stewing in your own bile and get over yourself.

You've waited too long to get out. She must be one attractive and exciting woman. You won't do any better now. Enjoy what she gives you, realize you're sharing her with others and hope that when she tires out she decides to stay with you. It's the best loser position you can take but face it you're a loser.

Don't bother. Ben Dover is just angry that he got exactly what he deserved. No sense in trying to reason with someone so joyously filled with voluntary hatred.

Anger is the flip side of sadness. Ben Dover, indeed.

In marriage we marry a mystery, an other, a counterpart. In a sense the person we marry is a stranger about whom we have a magnificent hunch. The person we choose to marry is someone we love, but his depths, her intimate intricacies - we will come to know only in the long unraveling of time. We know enough about our beloved to know that we love him, to imagine that, as time goes on, we will come to enjoy her even more, become even more of ourselves in her presence. To our knowledge we add our willingness to embark on the journey of getting to know him, of coming to see her, even so wonderfully more.

Swept up by attraction, attention, fantasy, hope, and a certain happy measure of recognition, we agree to come together for the mysterious future, to see where the journey will take us. This companionship on life’s journey is the hallmark of marriage, its natural province, its sweetest and most primal gift.

In promising always, we promise each other time. We promise to exercise our love, to stretch it large enough to embrace the unforeseen realities of the future. We promise to learn to love beyond the level of our instincts and inclinations, to love in foul weather as well as good, In hard times as well as when we are exhilarated by the pleasures of romance.

We change because of these promises. We shape ourselves according to them; we live in their midst and live differently because of them. We feel protected because of them. We try some things and resist trying others because, having promised, we feel secure. Marriage, the bond, makes us free to see, to be, to love. Our souls are protected; our hearts have come home.

On my wedding day, I hope to say, I shall miss the tragedy of lost loves, but I am off to wed my bliss.Sex isn't special unless it is shared inside the boundaries of marriage, and then, 'sex' is not a deep enough word to describe it. For then, it's 'making love' and making love is the greatest gift in the world. True love waits!We need a witness to our lives. There's a billion people on the planet ... I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything; the good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things ... all of it, all of the time, every day. You're saying, Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness.'If missing you, is the hardest part of my life; then, soften it please, and be my wife.

Dear LW,

I think the inescapable fact is that your wife, her hard-charging aggressive personality notwithstanding, has some kind of deep-seated and desperate emotional neediness that neither you nor any other man will ever be able to satisfy. She has been emotionally, if not physically, unfaithful to you in the past and she will be in the future. She's an approval addict whose addiction has caused her to sneak around with other men behind your back and then to lie to you about when confronted. Whether or not she has been physically intimate with these other men is almost beside the point; the fact is that she has been, and will continue to be, emotionally intimate with them and dishonest with you. This isn't going to change until and unless she admits -- to herself as well as you -- that she has a severe problem that she cannot handle on her own. Until that day comes (and you know that it very well may never come), you're going to continue to be cuckolded and lied to and subjected to more heartache and betrayal. Unless you're prepared to live with that reality for the rest of your life, you'd better get out now.

Good luck,

Eric