Letters to the Editor
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This is not decent roommate behavior.
No, this isn't what you sign up for by having a roommate. Not even by agreeing to a subleaser. Considerate adult roommates consult on terms of habitation. They give notification of guests, and ask for clearance for long-term guests.
Strange but true!
You DO NOT put yourself at the mercy of everyone else's needs/eccentricities/abuse by signing up for a roommate or subletter. Sure, you sign up for the eccentricities, annoying habits, and personal drama of THE person you agree to live with.
Sure, there are reasonable times to suck it up and deal, but when the understood and agreed-to terms of a sublease have been violated, you've been deceived and have people assuming a right to live in your home who you didn't agree to live with....is not one of them.
Try to look at it this way: By adhering to my above-stated paranoid and unreasonable expectation, what could go wrong? On the other hand, by sucking it up, just being nice, losing the paranoia, being gracious, being polite, not making waves, etc., what could go wrong?
LW, it's people who want to abuse you and take advantage of you who tell you to ignore your instincts and just go along.