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Talk to her
I'll chime in with the many who point out that postdocs are temporary training positions. I'm in science too and many couples I know have to split up during postdoc. Many others prioritize being in the same city. It depends on the couple and on the stage their relationship is in.
LW makes it sound like he doesn't know what's going on in his own relationship ("all the evidence tells me that she feels the same about me"). We don't have enough information to advise him, and neither does he, apparently. He'll find the answer to his question in a series of long conversations with his girl, not in the Salon Letters pages.