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Someone must run interference for you. The logical person would be your husband, but in this case he may not be up to the task because his family seems to have overwhelmed him as well. You need a trusted friend who can run interference for the both of you, answering the phones, "He's out, she's resting, I'll tell them you called. As you can imagine, they aren't taking visitors right now." Most people want to act, to do something so they feel less powerless in the face of your illness. But usually they will only proceed until they reach the limits you set. So let them drop off the casseroles at the door to a friend who can take them with a smile and tell them she will pass along their good wishes. Let someone else set up and maintain the website or send the emails that update them all on your progress with as much or as little information as you wish to share. That way, people can feel connected in their desire for your recovery, but you can maintain your privacy and peace. Best wishes for a full recovery.
