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Understand the consequences
One of the anonymous responders was right, and my heart breaks for her. If the LW proceeds with the abortion, knowing her husband wants this child, that relationship will never recover. He won't be able to give her the support she needs, no matter how he tries; she won't be able to empathize with his grief and loss, and he'll hide those feelings from her. More and more time will pass silently, with more and more anger building, and the relationship will not survive.
The LW might feel angry about having the child, but having the child opens a spectrum of future choices and opportunities -- good and bad -- that she can't imagine right now. Aborting the baby would be an effort to preserve the status quo, but the status quo is already gone.