Letters to the Editor
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Worked For Me
When I got married, I was totally ambivalent to having children, but my husband really really wanted them. So, I made him a deal: I'd get to work and follow my career and he could stay home and raise them. Of course, we are fortunate in that he is certainly more suited (temperament-wise) to daily child-rearing than I ever have been, so that has certainly increased our odds of success. But, so far, so good. In fact, a few years into parenthood I decided to change careers and have quit my job and we are spending our savings on graduate school for me. My husband continues to care for the children and make the house run while I go to school.
I mean, I do my fair share of parenting - putting kids to bed, helping with homework, caring for them while he gets to have adult time with his friends, you know all that stuff. But, as a general rule, he is the primary care giver and I am the secondary parent.
Having children is a huge decision and everyone should discern carefully what is right for them and their family. But, don't discount Cary's advice too quickly - it really is a reasonable alternative.