Letters to the Editor
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Have the Baby and half the responsibility
A contract would work great, if the husband was a corporation. But he's not, he's human and he's about to become a father again. I say again because he already has twin boys which he has been instrumental in raising and nurturing. And the abortion idea. Terrible. Forget it. The guilt of terminating your unborn child will chew you up and spit you out. You are going to have to suck it up and be a responsible parent. Sure its tough having an unexpected baby, but thats life. And thats the wonderful thing, this child may end up being the most precious part of your life. And what is so important that you can't do it and have another baby? I mean sure its hard to be pole dancer when you are pregnant, but pursuing a career, getting a degree? Thousands of woman pursue their dreams while pregnant or raising kids. I did. Sure I'd rather not have been pregnant, and sure I resented losing my body again, going through the trauma of diapers. But guess what, I adore my daughter Lola. I wouldn't have it any other way. Love is an amazing, unpredictable emotion.
Ditch the whole abortion idea, reset your expectations and really examine if having baby #3 is incompatible with your goals. Unless you are planning to join the marine corps or start training with NASA, I highly doubt the baby is the burden you think. You have a wonderful husband, a successful family - there is room for baby #3. Get a nanny, get help raising the child and pursue your dreams, take time for yourself. Its possible. I do it every day.