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I've seen a situation like this in real life.
She didn't want kids. He did. He talked her into it, promised to be a good dad, promised to take care of most of the childrearing responsibilities, etc. She agreed to have the kid.
He stuck around for a year or so and bolted. He didn't pay child support. She ended up as not only the primary caregiver, but the ONLY caregiver.
I've seen this happen twice to people I've known over the years. You cannot make a decision based on the idea that your husband will take on all the responsibility for this child, not because he can't do it, but because you have no guarantee that he will. This "contract" Cary speaks of is ridiculous - what are you going to do if he breaks his end of the contract? It's not like you can return the kid.