Letters to the Editor
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The impact on the child
She clearly doesn't want another child. It's certainly possible that if she decides to have it, it will be a different and transformative experience this time and she'll really enjoy it.
However, it's also possible that she'll have it and resent the living daylights out of it - and out of her husband who "forced" her to have a child and to put her own life on hold. Even if she manages to restrain herself from taking out her resentment on the child, the child will know. People, especially kids, know when they are resented and it can be incredibly damaging.
The other question is: can her marriage survive her having the child? Also, what happens if her husband leaves her? Or becomes ill? Or dies? How will she feel about having a young child in this situation?
This is such a difficult situation. I'm not sure there's a good answer, or any kind of answer. But I hope she can make the best possible decision - whatever that is - under the circumstances.